Off of TopGear’s blog: “The Twitch”. Who doesn’t love Jeremy Clarkson?
Oh my God..how am I supposed to answer this one?!
Anyone that knows me knows that I’m a movie addict. I love to rent em and download them and go to the movies at least once a week. The movie experience is one of my top five favorite activities. They make you laugh, cry, or think, and they bring you into a whole new world for two hours out of your day, where you can escape to the darknesses of Gothham City or to the Carolina beaches and romance in The Notebook, or to the Safari lands of Africa in The Lion King. Movies are just beautiful things. So I think I’ll have to give a top 10 list to really answer this great question.They aren’t in ranking order really because I love them all equally in different ways ! And I feel that this list changes as the years go on. But currently, these 10, okay 11, rank highest as those movies that I just can’t get enough of right now.
1. The Fighter
2. I Love You, Man
4. Pride and Prejudice
5. Lion King
6. The Dark Knight
7. Gone in Sixty Seconds
8. Almost Famous
9. Forgetting Sara Marshall
10. Toy Story 3
11. 2012 (hehe)
I just wanna say I wish I could make a list of 100! or 1000! Maybe I will in a future blog post. When I was younger I thought I could be on Ebert and Roeper as a renowned and looked to movie critique. But I think I love too many movies to be that judgemental on them. So in the future, I’ll write a long post on movies.
So I stumbled upon this website today during lecture, I know, bad Leah. But this page I found really spoke to me and it has some great tips I think anyone could use. Me especially! Have a looksie 🙂
Caution: may result in lots of self evaluation 🙂
Stop taking so much notice of how you feel. How you feel is how you feel. It’ll pass soon. What you’re thinking is what you’re thinking. It’ll go too. Tell yourself that whatever you feel, you feel; whatever you think, you think. Since you can’t stop yourself thinking, or prevent emotions from arising in your mind, it makes no sense to be proud or ashamed of either. You didn’t cause them. Only your actions are directly under your control. They’re the only proper cause of pleasure or shame.
Let go of worrying. It often makes things worse. The more you think about something bad, the more likely it is to happen. When you’re hair-trigger primed to notice the first sign of trouble, you’ll surely find something close enough to convince yourself it’s come.
Ease up on the internal life commentary. If you want to be happy, stop telling yourself you’re miserable. People are always telling themselves how they feel, what they’re thinking, what others feel about them, what this or that event really means. Most of it’s imagination. The rest is equal parts lies and misunderstandings. You have only the most limited understanding of what others feel about you. Usually they’re no better informed on the subject; and they care about it far less than you do. You have no way of knowing what this or that event really means. Whatever you tell yourself will be make-believe.
Take no notice of your inner critic. Judging yourself is pointless. Judging others is half-witted. Whatever you achieve, someone else will always do better. However bad you are, others are worse. Since you can tell neither what’s best nor what’s worst, how can you place yourself correctly between them? Judging others is foolish since you cannot know all the facts, cannot create a reliable or objective scale, have no means of knowing whether your criteria match anyone else’s, and cannot have more than a limited and extremely partial view of the other person. Who cares about your opinion anyway?
Give up on feeling guilty. Guilt changes nothing. It may make you feel you’re accepting responsibility, but it can’t produce anything new in your life. If you feel guilty about something you’ve done, either do something to put it right or accept you screwed up and try not to do so again. Then let it go. If you’re feeling guilty about what someone else did, see a psychiatrist. That’s insane.
Stop being concerned what the rest of the world says about you. Nasty people can’t make you mad. Nice people can’t make you happy. Events or people are simply events or people. They can’t make you anything. You have to do that for yourself. Whatever emotions arise in you as a result of external events, they’re powerless until you pick them up and decide to act on them. Besides, most people are far too busy thinking about themselves (and worry what you are are thinking and saying about them) to be concerned about you.
Stop keeping score. Numbers are just numbers. They don’t have mystical powers. Because something is expressed as a number, a ratio or any other numerical pattern doesn’t mean it’s true. Plenty of lovingly calculated business indicators are irrelevant, gibberish, nonsensical, or just plain wrong. If you don’t understand it, or it’s telling you something bizarre, ignore it. There’s nothing scientific about relying on false data. Nor anything useful about charting your life by numbers that were silly in the first place.
Don’t be concerned that your life and career aren’t working out the way you planned. The closer you stick to any plan, the quicker you’ll go wrong. The world changes constantly. However carefully you analyzed the situation when you made the plan, if it’s more than a few days old, things will already be different. After a month, they’ll be very different. After a year, virtually nothing will be the same as it was when you started. Planning is only useful as a discipline to force people to think carefully about what they know and what they don’t. Once you start, throw the plan away and keep your eyes on reality.
Don’t let others use you to avoid being responsible for their own decisions. To hold yourself responsible for someone else’s success and happiness demeans them and proves you’ve lost the plot. It’s their life. They have to live it. You can’t do it for them; nor can you stop them from messing it up if they’re determined to do so. The job of a supervisor is to help and supervise. Only control-freaks and some others with a less serious mental disability fail to understand this.
Don’t worry about about your personality. You don’t really have one. Personality, like ego, is a concept invented by your mind. It doesn’t exist in the real world. Personality is a word for the general impression that you give through your words and actions. If your personality isn’t likeable today, don’t worry. You can always change it, so long as you allow yourself to do so. What fixes someone’s personality in one place is a determined effort on their part—usually through continually telling themselves they’re this or that kind of person and acting on what they say. If you don’t like the way you are, make yourself different. You’re the only person who’s standing in your way.
My blog name Dealing with Distance is named so because I’m writing about my time in a new place, far away from everything else I’ve know. There’s distance between me and my friends, loved ones, family, and my hometown. Everything is new and different and sometimes scary. And I deal with all of those things every day, hence the name! It helps me just to write about the events that transpire, whether it’s good or sad or negative, it’s a good release.
Also, for those in similar situations, it’s just nice to see someone who can relate or who has been there, done that. Not nearly enough Internet literature on how to deal with such distance.
So, instead of writing on relationships, love, life etc etc. I thought I’d do this great 30 days of blogging on self reflection. Each day there’s a new something to post about, and I think it’ll be a nice learning experience even for me. Sometimes you have to put your life down into words for you to see what’s important and what makes you really you.
So day 1 is : A recent picture and 15 interesting facts about me.
1. When I was a kid, I wanted to be a lawyer and live in Washington D.C. because I visited there and loved the subway system.
2. I constantly think my iPod shuffling option is broken because I think I hear the same things all the time. I just need new music I think.
3. I am a movie-aholic. I love going to the theatre, even the sketchy dollar theatre, or renting them at home, netflix, I can’t get enough movies!
4. I really like scented candles.
5. I have at least 50 pictures framed or hung or pinned up in my room. They make me happy to look at.
6. When I’m bored I look up funny quotes from The Office because Michael Scott makes me laugh harder than almost anybody.
7. I was a vegetarian for about 6 months and then caved because I couldn’t stand driving by innout burger every day and not having one.
8. I have very ticklish knees.
9. I traveled all around the United States for six weeks the summer of 6th grade with my family. It was one of the most amazing trips I’ve ever taken, and I hope to take my future family on the same trip.
10. I was a girl scout for 11 years.
11. I found my great grandparent’s names engraved in the stones at Ellis Island. It really made me feel like I was born for a reason.
12. I love to put ketchup on my macaroni and cheese, but it grosses some people out so I only do it when it’s just me 🙂
13. I love flying into the San Diego airport and looking out to see the beautiful bay and all the great buildings and aircraft carriers.
14. I’ve never broken a single bone in my body.
15. One of my favorite things to do is drive on a sunny day with the windows down and my sunglasses on singing along with a good country song.
It’s so easy to get stuck on something that makes you happy. Often there’s nothing wrong with that, if it’s a healthy something. Like a new sport, a class you’re really into, something like that. It starts to get dangerous when that thing is something else, like a relationship, mass amounts of food, drugs, (lol) you get the idea. Those things can turn into addictions or obesessions in unhealthy ways. It is fine if those things make you happy, but there has to be a balance in life.
If all that ever makes you happy is food, chances are you will put on considerable amounts of weight. If all that ever makes you happy is a guy or girl in your life, you’ll feel awful if things don’t work out or you realize they have other interests and needs not including you. Drugs, well that is pretty self explanatory :p kind of unhealthy no matter how often you do them.
Balance is the key, I’m realizing. Everything should be taken in moderation. I need to focus on school for a bit, then my happiness, then whatever else, just a little at a time to avoid that overwhelming feeling, that out of control feeling. I’ve been so stressed out lately I feel like my head is going to explode at any second. Seriously. My school schedule is out of control and I feel like I have no control over it. My social life is barely existent, causing me to feel the weights of school even more so due to the lack of social distractions I have at my disposal. Money has been on my mind all the time, trying to find ways to fund another visit to see my boyfriend, trying to figure out how I will be able to move out after this semester. My relationship with my boyfriend has been on my brain too, like it always is I guess. We’re in a place right now where anything could happen to us. It scares the crap out of me.
So I sit and think about all these things and feel it build up and then I panic and can’t breath and can’t even function right.
I need to relax. I need to take things in moderation. I need to balance out my needs and my wants and my life. I need to stop worrying about what he’s doing and start thinking about what I’m doing. I need to unstick myself a little bit from “us”. In a long distance relationship it is downright crucial to find things that make you happy apart from your significant other. I struggle with that on a daily basis and I wish to God I didn’t. I hope someday, soon hopefully, I can find myself again and find out what makes me happy, without anyone else in the picture. I love my boyfriend so much, but am still learning to deal with life without him here. He’s my inspiration, I want to live like him. He takes things a day at a time, without worry or anxiety. He makes time for everyone in his life, and he has many things that make him happy.
I need balance and variety. I just need something before I lose my freakin mind here.
I am having this recurrent feeling that I am getting owned by school . It’s constantly on my mind, the nagging thoughts that even after studying for 2 hours, I still feel like I’m falling behind. And then moments like right now, sitting in the library, when I’m blogging instead of studying for my communications exam. But I can’t neglect my blog : )
How can I study here anyways, with this guy sitting near me talking on the phone with his fiance, I presume, discussing wedding invitations and florists. I’m not eavesdropping, well not intentionally. But I can’t shut my ears! I may have to move down to the scary silent deep depths of the school library to get some serious work done. That kind of silence can only be handled for so long before you feel like your a castaway on an island of books. I digress.
No wonder I’m feeling owned by my workload. I’m too busy people watching. I love watching those chemistry or physics students who sit in the study rooms and write on the glass walls, all these complex equations and numbers and molecules everywhere. It’s like Good Will Hunting up in there. The sleeping students in the study booths or the egg chairs that are shaped way to comfortably to do any real work in, (I know from experience.) those people just make me smile. I know they probably had the same 5 hours of sleep last night, maybe even due to noisy housemates that wake up at 6 am banging around the dishes and dropping bowling balls in the room above… but maybe that’s just me.
Oh, I was right! Fiance and guy sitting across from me have finally figured out what paper company to go with to make the invitations. I wonder where they will get the cake? Ha.
…So not in the mood to do real work. But, in order to visit my boyfriend this weekend without substantial piles of work awaiting me there, I need to get cracking. Yay for visiting! So in the mean time, do work…avoid getting the vicious cold that has been infecting my household, and presto, hello weekend, hello wonderfulness!
I’m going to the quiet place now…the dark side of the eh, library. I don’t think cell phones even work down there..
Update: Moments after writing this, my Dr. Pepper spilled all over my papers and notebook. The universe is laughing at me now. And I’m still procrastinating further to write this, I’m tempting fate now hahaha
per·spec·tive (p r-sp k t v). n. 1. a. A view or vista. b. A mental view or outlook.
This is what it’s all about. We get so wrapped up in our minds and our little worlds, we don’t even look at what’s really around us.
It’s the small things. Bitching about school. Complaining about work. Whining about your family, wishing they would get off your back. And then you remember, or are forced to remember, that you are blessed and lucky to be in school. That you even have a job to complain about. That your family gives a damn about you enough to always be on you about one thing or another.
A very honest person told me to let those little things roll off of you, because it’s all about perspective.
I guess this post is just me saying I get it. I get that new mental view and outlook. And everyone needs a little perspective from time to time. It’s okay to feel badly about things in your life, and to complain and to feel that life is unfair. Everyone does. But then after a time, you put your complaints into the view of the world, and at least just acknowledge the thought of perspective. It changes your outlook a lot.
You look at the pictures and the letters and the messages and you smile. You remember every moment, like your first time to the zoo together, when the gorillas beat their chests and banged on the glass in front of you, or when you spent the whole day watching movies on the couch together, or when you had your first fight. When you watched Lord of the Rings and you fell asleep at your favorite part and he laughed, and when he scoops you way too much ice cream, and when you can’t finish it, he’ll help you out. When he brings you donuts or your favorite candy to the airport when he picks you up, because it’s your favorite and he always does things like that for you. When you put on the pretty dress and he smiles at you and says how lovely you look. The first time you took him skiing and he loved it and loved it with you. The first birthday he spends with you, and he makes it so special when no one else even notices that it’s your birthday. When you went to the fair and ate every unhealthy thing there, like oreo covered cheesecake or artichokes and butter or ice cream sundaes. You remember when you had to leave, again. You remember the first time he said I love you, and how everything seemed to stop and you couldn’t even form words because of how he makes you feel. You remember everything, through the photos and the memories that you cling to.
I think I remember almost everything. Every smile he has, every hug and kiss and tickle, every hello and goodbye, dinners and movies and drives in the car. I love to remember, especially on days and nights when I feel lonely, scared, sad, or just not myself. The only thing I want to do is make more memories and take more pictures and do what we do best.
And I heard this song All we can do is Keep Breathing, by Ingrid Michaelson, and I thought it fit, with everything. No matter what happens in life, that’s all we can really can do. (it’s a great song too, check it out)
In my Analysis of Argument class this week, we were going over how an image or series of images can create an argument just as powerfully as words can. My professor showed us this video.
Speaks for itself, and the tag line on it is “The most beautiful seatbelt advocacy ad ever made”. Truly a beautiful video. Gives me chills! (love the fairy wings too)
I love the message it sends, not only to the safety of wearing a seatbelt, but of embracing life. Embrace your family, your friends, your hobbies and passions, because you just never know what life will throw at you.
So.. Embrace Life!